Episode 025: Taking the Side Road Ahead

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGW0PDb0_TE

I rarely discuss my divorce, and after episode 199, I doubt I'll mention it again because of the direction I want to take this channel. Yet, sometimes in conversations, you need to say, "Pay attention to both the passengers and the road ahead." As a driver, you can sense tension or unspoken words in someone's voice, or the hesitation they have in expressing themselves. It's important to reassure them, "It's okay, we all make mistakes." Forgiving partners and those around you is challenging if you can't acknowledge your role in the difficulties. It took me years to understand my marriage's downfall, as my pride and ego blinded me to my own faults. I mention my divorce humorously or as a cautionary tale of why two people who once loved each other might part ways. I realize that sometimes you marry someone who isn't right for you, so I often advise those planning bachelor or bachelorette parties: 1) Don't marry to mature, 2) Don't marry to conform, 3) Don't marry to be completed by someone else, 4) Remember, you marry the family, and they can either unite or divide you. Family won't complete your marriage, especially not your children; invest in your relationship and don't rely on your children to hold it together. Keep your in-laws in the second circle of trust—too far, and they'll pull, too close, and they'll push.